My father never told me not to lie. But I watched him be honest in business and hold a respect as a man who stood by his word. He never told me not to cheat. But one day I saw him return a small amount of change that the clerk overpaid him. My father never said, “you are only as old as you think you are.” But I watched him pursue a dream of floating the Amazon River for his 80th birthday.
My mother never told me to help those in need. But on a regular basis, I witnessed her taking food to those who were less fortunate. She never said to take care of the environment, but during the summer, we walked along the beach for what seemed like hours picking up trash. She never said to stand up for what you believe in. But I saw her risk popularity to support a cause she believed was greater than others’ approval.
When I reflect on the amazing lessons I have learned from my parents and other influences around me, I realize that their actions impacted more than their words. As a young mother, my greatest influence on my children and the next generation is living out my beliefs.
If I say to my children, have faith and believe that God will carry you through, yet I am in despair when trials come, they will not learn to depend on God. If I tell them to make family a priority, yet I am too busy with my own goals and activities, my words are futile. So as I look at the legacy I am leaving, it is sobering to ask myself, am I living the life I desire them to emulate?
As a young mother with young children, I have high hopes for our daughters. I want them to know they can achieve anything they set their minds to. So one day, I told my four-year old daughter, “Cassidy you can do anything you want to do, what do you want to be when you grow up?” And she said, “I want to be a mommy, just like you.” And for a fleeting moment I wanted to say, “well, honey, first you can be on the Olympic team, go to Harvard, find a cure for cancer, and then be a mommy… Of course, God stopped me as if to say, “I just answered the question you have been wondering about. You are leaving a legacy. Your daughter wants to be a mom just like you.”
After that moment, I remembered that true legacy is letting my children be who God made them. That they will have peace within themselves and pursue their own dreams, not my aspirations and goals for them and not the world’s expectations.
As a community of mothers, we can inspire our children and the child next door. I was raised by a community of mothers who nurtured my interests. There are some children who though unfortunate circumstances have been denied the simplest gestures of love. We can share our motherly love through a smile, genuine interest, and active participation. As mothers, we can make a difference. Never doubt – actions speak louder than words.
Margaux Edwards Crockett was born in McCall, Idaho and raised in the community of Donnelly where she grew up riding horses, working on a ranch and learning the importance of western values: honesty, helping your neighbor, and the value of a handshake. As a rodeo competitor, in 1997 she represented her state as Miss Rodeo Idaho promoting the agricultural industry. Margaux earned a B.S. in Secondary Education from York College of Pennsylvania. She taught junior and high school science and then worked as a vocational instructor for the Idaho Department of Corrections. Margaux is married to the love of her life, Tyler Crockett, former professional bull rider and business owner. She now has the greatest job in the world....the mother of two precious girls and one on the way! Currently, Margaux is pursuing her Masters in Counseling from Northwest Nazarene University. The Crocketts attend the Donnelly Bible Church.
Posted on Wed, May 12, 2010
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