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Meet Kate Boydston, 2023 New York Mother of the Year®

March 13, 2023


Kate Boydston is a maternal health advocate and patient family partner, based in New York with her husband and two children. She survived a placental abruption, NICU stay, gestational diabetes and postpartum anxiety and depression. A friend through pageantry gave Kate the resources to educate herself and to start taking the first steps to survive her maternal mental health struggles. Kate now shares her story internationally to advocate, educate, and empower other women to seek support and share their stories like she did. She and her husband founded #momsmaketime, which is used to encourage moms to make time to take care of themselves. One of the ways she spreads her message is by pageantry, most recently she competed for the prestigious title of Mrs. American as the reigning Mrs. New York American. When she isn’t advocating for other moms, she is spending time with her family, gardening or crafting with girlfriends.

What surprises you most about being a mom?

I have been surprised to learn the strength in myself when I became a mother. I learn and grow as a person every day with my children while learning the greatest strengths of myself. My son waited for me to feel comfortable in my role as a mom and I am forever grateful for his grace toward me. He taught me how important it is to take care of ourselves and be the best versions we can be, while also showing ourselves grace when we don’t feel perfect. My proudest life accomplishment is being Hudson and Penelope’s mother.

What continues to inspire you in your motherhood journey?

Hearing from other mothers I meet along my journey continues to inspire me to advocate for better maternal mental health care and equity with resources. During my experience with international advocacy, I learned that many other women have had similar experiences, but there wasn’t an open conversation for them to feel comfortable joining. My work in advocacy and hearing the story of other moms have inspired me to establish #momsmaketime, a platform to give moms resources to take care of their mental health.

How has being a mom shaped your life?

After experiencing postpartum depression and anxiety, I learned to give myself grace. I learned my passion can translate to advocacy. Before I was a mother I advocated for other people’s children, which was fulfilling but also felt a bit distant in my relation to the cause. After I experienced becoming a mother I was able to advocate for a cause that was personal to me. Becoming a mom shaped my future in advocacy and helped me learn my strengths. I use this as an example for my children that they can also do hard things.